Should You Get Back Together With Ex?

You and your ex have split. He has his way and you went for you. But now you are having second thoughts and want to come back with the former. The days are empty, the nights of solitude, and whatever you think of those wonderful memories you both shared together.

You reflect on the past with romantic dinners for the love of your life. You have reminded all the little gifts that showed how much they have supported. You can still see the sparkle in their eyes as they met with yours. Ahh, the sensation of their body that looks at once became one on the dance floor. The winks, hugs, kisses, love ... expatriates and their captivating smile is indelibly etched in your memory. It is easy to catch up in this cycle. And now, in your despair all you want is to go with the former.

But why are not both at the same time? If everything was so wonderful, what happened in the relationship? I call it selective memory. Maybe that's intentional, or maybe it's subconscious. Your heart must not dwell on painful memories, it is perhaps the spirit of how to protect your heart. But you should think about the situation and everything that happened, especially if you are serious in your desire to return to the former.

Why did you divide? Was it something you've done? Something they have done? Or maybe something that both of you are guilty of. Was it something that is suddenly, or if it had been brewing for a longer period of time? Did you see it coming and simply chose to ignore it, or were you completely blindsided by it? Is there anything that one of you could have done to prevent the problem from happening and save your relationship? All these questions, you must consider before walking blindly in the relationship.

Many people follow their heart without giving much thought to long term. And while in a perfect world, it seems that in May Following your heart that you must do, the reality is that you can open a lot of unnecessary suffering. Have you ever heard, "The heart is deceitful, and above all." Painful but true.

Now, if you really want to come back with ex, I'm not saying that this will never work. Reconciliation is very possible that two people who love each other deeply and are committed to work on their relationship. But neither of you can expect to go back and resume where you left off, and we believe that everything will be good "because we love each other."

There were problems that caused the outbreak of the first time, and if these problems are solved and we hope that corrected, there will always be buried in your emotional desire to return to the former. If nothing has changed while the end result will probably be the same as last time, or perhaps even worse. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. This will not happen.

If you acknowledge that you have been one with the problem, then do something to correct. You are the only person who can fix it. If your ex was the one with the problem, then you can not resolve. They want to establish themselves and take the necessary steps to make the necessary changes. You can encourage, support and do as you like they do for you, but do not let recover at the same time be a precondition for their assistance. However, emphasize that to get help is a precondition for returning to the former.

If you agree that each of you had the hand because of the rupture, which is always the case (I remember the song "It's A Little Bit Me, It's A Little Bit You), then two you need advice before seeking to meet the relationship. Good counseling can help each of you to identify strengths and weaknesses in you and in the other, as well as provide insight, guidance and support in your work, the difference.

If you really love your ex, and we believe that two of you were destined to be together, do not give up hope. Just realize that it takes two people, really try to make a relationship work. You can not change the past, but you can learn. And you can not change someone else, but you can change yourself. If we are honest, there is something in all of us that we could change for the better. Once you start working on yourself, it will become more clear to you whether or not you should return to the former.